Comments on: What’s On Your Victory List?

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 31 May 2016 16:47:12 +0000

I went through the same exact thing last year. My ex-husband (we had been divorced only a year) died suddenly in a home accident. It sent my daughter and I reeling, to put it mildly. It was a huge period of adjustment coming on the heels of the maelstrom of a divorce. It is a very awkward and strange place to be, losing your ex.

Though you made me laugh because, like you, I also took his dog into my home. In a way, that was such a great distraction in our grief. I think we walked our way through things mile by mile, the dog, my daughter and I.

Anyway, I have been counting all of the small “victories” as you say. There is a clarity that you acquire following a big loss. For me it has meant slowing down and taking stock of the small things. Time outside with my daughter; her school activities; DIY projects. Whatever it is, I take the time for a deep breath and gratitude.

Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 27 Apr 2016 02:33:24 +0000

I would love to hike a section of the Appalachian Trail. My other idea would to take part in a march. To feel like you are part of a vast movement trying to make a small change for the good of mankind.

By: Laura Lee Carter

Laura Lee Carter — Tue, 26 Apr 2016 15:45:00 +0000

P.S. Eliza, have you heard of the FB writing group “Women of Midlife”? It’s great group to belong to. Supportive and informative for women writers. LLC

By: Laura Lee Carter

Laura Lee Carter — Tue, 26 Apr 2016 15:42:19 +0000

Hey Eliza! Greetings from southern Colorado!
So sorry to hear of your loss. It must be devastating…
I love your advice! I so rarely congratulate myself for doing a great job of just living my life day-to-day. I especially needed this when we first moved here and EVERYTHING WAS SO DIFFERENT! I’m now learning how to be-here-now and appreciate the new life we have created in nature.
Good luck and blessings,
Laura

By: Eliza Cross

Eliza Cross — Sat, 23 Apr 2016 17:57:29 +0000

I love your list, Lyn, and hope those moments happen for you. I’m sorry you’re a member of the Grief Club. How very sad and difficult to lose your dear niece suddenly like that. I’m sorry. I appreciate your heartfelt encouragement. Hugs…xoxo

By: Lyn

Lyn — Sat, 23 Apr 2016 17:49:53 +0000

Eliza – – What a lovely idea. Celebrating those small daily things can be hard to do when there is that nagging feeling that we are never doing enough. For me, this week, the list would include: taking a bath, going to a yoga class, grilling for dinner one night.

Hang in there. I remember the fog I experienced after my niece died unexpectedly in a ski accident almost 6 years ago. I started gardening with passion and counted each new flower planted or weed pulled as my victories during that hard time. Best wishes during this Earth Week to you and your family.